Understanding my attachment style gave me the key to things I'd been repeating for years without realising.
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Centre de Psicologia Jaume Primer · Girona
Every way of loving deserves a secure bond.
We support people who live, explore or question polyamory, relationship anarchy, open relationships and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. Individual and relationship therapy, online and soon in person, with a clinical, non-judgemental approach.
For a long time, psychology has looked at relationships through a single model. When someone lives their emotional life outside monogamy, they often meet practitioners who don't understand them —or who flatly judge them. Not here.
We start from a simple, solid idea: you can have an insecure bond while being monogamous, and a deeply secure bond while loving several people. What makes the difference isn't how many people you love, but how you care for each other, how you communicate and how you repair when something breaks.
And we work in depth. Jealousy, conflict or agreements that go unmet are usually the tip of the iceberg: underneath lie attachment histories, wounds and needs that deserve to be heard with time and care.
Every process is unique. We work in two formats, often combined, depending on what you need at each point.
A space for you: to understand your attachment patterns, manage intense emotions, make decisions from a calm place and build a more secure relationship with yourself, whatever relationship you're living.
For couples, triads, open bonds and constellations of any shape. A neutral place to talk about the hard stuff, put words to agreements and care for your network of relationships, whoever is part of it.
Supporting the opening process with safety, your own pace and clear agreements.
Exploring what lies beneath jealousy and turning it into useful information.
Learning to say the hard things, negotiate and revisit agreements without fear or blame.
Supporting the transition and the grief for the model left behind.
Understanding your bonding style and healing what keeps repeating.
Managing schedules, care and limits when there are several bonds.
Supporting endings, shifts in form and the reorganisation of a network.
Deciding what, to whom and how to share with family, work or your circle.
Cultivating genuine wellbeing in the face of your loved one's happiness.
Working on desire, practices, sexual health and bodily agreements.
Rethinking motherhood and fatherhood from diverse relationship models.
An affirmative space to explore who you are and how you want to love.
Our work draws on attachment theory and on the work of psychotherapist Jessica Fern, who extended it to consensual non-monogamy. One premise runs through everything: people aren't non-monogamous because they have an insecure attachment. Security is built —and it can be built with one person or with several.
We offer this support in collaboration with an external team of psychologists specialised in relationship diversity, with professionals in Barcelona and the province of Girona. We currently work online and will soon also offer in-person sessions in Girona.
Jessica Fern sums up in six elements what helps build security in any attachment-based relationship —whether you have one or several.
Being truly present, with full attention and no distractions, when we're with the people we love.
Showing that we're glad the other person exists, beyond what they do for us.
Connecting with the other's inner world, even when we disagree, and sharing our own.
The everyday gestures and ceremonies that create the sense of a «we».
Repairing and reconnecting quickly after a conflict or a rupture.
Applying all of the above inward: caring for, listening to and holding yourself.
Theoretical framework based on Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Thorntree Press, 2020). Our team integrates this approach with the clinical training of the centre. jessicafern.com ↗
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If you recognise yourself in any of these situations, this is your place. You don't need to have it all figured out to start: we support people at very different points on their relational path.
An affirmative space. We support all orientations, gender identities and relationship forms, including sexual diversity and consensual BDSM practices, with respect and without pathologising.
We start with a first meeting to get to know each other, understand what you need and see how we can support you. No commitment and in full confidence.
Examples of the kind of experiences we support. These are sample testimonials; we'll replace them with real reviews, with consent.
Understanding my attachment style gave me the key to things I'd been repeating for years without realising.
I arrived really afraid of jealousy. Here they didn't make me feel I was doing it wrong: they helped me understand what was underneath.
After twelve years together we wanted to open up without breaking what we had. Having a neutral space to talk about it changed everything.
Finally a practice where I didn't have to explain what polyamory is before I could talk about what was going on for me.
Relationship anarchy made me feel alone when everyone told me I was making it up. Here, at last, I felt validated.
Managing time and energy across bonds was overwhelming me. We brought order, agreements and a lot more calm.
Answers to the most common questions about therapy for relationship diversity and non-monogamy.